Taking L's

(Losses – for all you old folk.. Which I guess I’m a part of now seeing I had to Google the term when I first heard it)

As we enter in to the new year, I’ve been reflecting a lot on the lessons that 2017 taught me and one of those would have to be ‘failure.’ Despite 2017 being my ‘best’ year yet, one full of many successes, I can’t help but think it was one that was also filled with the most amount of failures too.

“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”

― Thomas A. Edison

In this day and age, it’s hard to see what failures we all go through, especially through the influence of social media where it’s become everyones platform to curate the best of what their life has to offer. No one likes to talk about how they fall short of their goals and benchmarks.. It just isn’t appealing. We’ve conditioned ourselves to give more credit to our failures, which just brings us down. Whether it’s a test you’ve failed, a task that you never got done, or a relationship that went south, we’ve all gone through some form of failure.

But it’s these moments we need to recognise that we are taking crucial steps in the race that we call life. Failures are actually successful ways for you to not do something so that you can move on to something that will work.

Here are four steps to consider in the midst of facing failure to help you push forward and learning to love the process of failure.

"Sit down, be humble."

— Kendrick Lamar

1. Acknowledge failure

Instead of running away, not thinking about it, or just purely giving up, acknowledging you’ve failed at something is a really good starting point. Not only are you being honest, it becomes an opportunity for you to be real with yourself and puts you on the road to humility. In the wise words of Kendrick Lamar, “sit down, be humble.”

2. Seek perspective

There’s all sorts of reasons on why we fail at something. Sometimes it’s caused by the actions of others (don’t we all love it when it’s others peoples faults??) or because it was a fault of our own. This is where most people get caught up in failure in that they play the blame game, which restricts them from moving on to finding the next best thing.
Having acknowledged your failure, seeking perspective in the areas that went wrong can give you the wisdom to find the success you were looking for and resolution to put things at rest. Whether it’s asking yourself questions on what you could have done differently or seeking guidance for help, finding perspective in the midst of failure gives you the wisdom to see a wider scope of your environment allowing you to see the different views you have never seen before.  A once dead end becomes an avenue of potential new successes.

When we seek success, we find failure,but when we seek failure, we find success.

3. Persevere

Don’t give up. When we give up, we rob ourselves short from seeing the success we only see in our dreams. Sometimes we don’t realise how close to success we are when we decide to give up. What if the next try you have a go at something becomes the ultimate answer you were looking for.

4. Take those W's

If you’ve made it this far, yes, W’s stand for wins.
Despite this being the last step, this shouldn’t be where you stop your journey. Learning how to embrace failure in your daily life will help you to overcome the challenges we once thought were impossible. We were made to overcome the impossible.. And all it takes is a little help.
Failure is just part of the process, and it’s not just okay; it’s better than okay. God doesn’t want failure to shut us down. God didn’t make it a three-strikes-you’re-out sort of thing. It’s more about how God helps us dust of ourselves off so we can swing for the fences again. And all of this without keeping a meticulous record of our screw-ups. – Bob Goff, Love Does